SELF-HELP: How can you change your fate?
SELF-HELP: How can you change your fate?
Are you fed up with your life? Have you ever desired having a life different from yours? Seems like it is the problem with almost everyone. Let me tell you one thing. Your fate is already decided. You cannot do anything about it- or, can you?
Let’s suppose that your life is a book. It has chapters and
pages in it. Words are imprinted that tell your life story. The problem here is
that you are just not satisfied with some events in your story, and want to change
it (except for some) according to your tastes. Can you do that? Is it possible?
Well… it might as well be.
Let’s first understand the term below.
WHAT IS AFFABILITY?
Affability is a great quality of possessing good manners and a forever sweet nature.
Many a times we have heard people whine about how they have been
mistreated when they themselves behaved very well. They often say things like, “I
was very ice to them, and then why they weren’t nice to me?” That’s plain
truth- people don’t always return your goodness to you. So, what do you do now?
And here comes the concept of Affability- the master quality!
Affability is when you stay good to the person who did you bad-
hurt you in some way. It is when you do or say good to the person you dislike.
Unfortunately it is not as easy as it sounds, otherwise there
would be tranquility peace everywhere. For this, we have to first master
ourselves- have control on ourselves. This thing is evident. Normally, we aren’t
nice to the person who behaves badly In front of us. Mostly, we are only good
for the good people and bad for the bad. In short, we are limited spiritually.
Likewise, many of us are limited physically as well. Here
comes our main topic.
WHY DO WE
FAIL TO CHANGE OUR FATE?
It is a common observation that whenever you wanted to change
yourself or your life- but failed to do so-you give up. Right. Human beings are
born with passion. They desire one thing or another. But for some reasons, some
will succeed and others will not.
If you want to change yourself- you can definitely do it. But
it cannot happen all at once. Expecting an overall change in yourself or in your
life in one night is unrealistic. That is the reason may people give up. Their unrealistic
attitude toward transformation. You can’t go to bed one night hoping to wake up
as a superman the next day- or even a couple of days after. Sorry friends! Change
doesn’t happen that way.
“The way to transformation- is always time-consuming.”
You can bring a change, only if you are willing to sacrifice
your time.
RULES OF
CHANGE
Consider there two rules IN order to bring a change IN yourself
and your life.
Rule No.1
MAKE a firm decision
of wherever you want to go.
Be realistic. Choose an ULTIMATE GOAL- a FINAL DESTIATION in
your life.
Rule No.2
Take small steps
towards achieving your goal- not big steps.
Don’t try to make big revolutions in your life. This will ultimately demotivate you forcing you to quit.
If you consistently follow
these rules without overburdening yourself- you’ll bring a big transformation in
your life.
HOW THIS
HAPPENS?
By increasing your performance little by little every day,
you trick your Brainy as well as your muscles into believing that you can definitely
do more.
IMPORTANT
THINGS
To do your best to improve your life and change your fate,
make these two things your priority.
1) Physical and
mental health
2) Relations
Also control your emotions IN your life. Learn to manage your
emotions. Learn to channelize (utilize) them. It has been researched that
females are more emotional as compared to males. This means that they analyze situations
based on their emotions. ON the other hand, grief management is more in females.
Grief is the most manageable emotion. It ceases to exist after 12 minutes of controlling
it. But men cannot manage grief. That’s why heart attack rates are more among men.
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