A "little" problem
In our society, girls have been and are still being brainwashed that the prime reason for their existence is to get married. After marriage, they have to put up with their in-laws. Before, if they are lucky, they can persue their dreams according to their will. But this will comes to an end after they get married!
One often questions about the fruit of ones effort. Weren't girls educated so they could modestly upgrade their own lives instead of being heartlessly dictated upon.
One often questions what respect have these girls earned after striving hard for so many years getting education. Why arent girls allowed to continually persue their dreams- to live and earn a bit more respectfully.
Such instances are prevalent in our society where everyone-including the girls parents deny her rights or even pretend as if it was no big deal. On the other hand, anything troubling the in-laws is percieved significant on both sides and must be rectified as soon as possible.
A grave fault in our society is that it doesn't give due place to its woman. Any fault in her will be unforgivable and unforgettable. She is expected to always keep her head bowed down and refrain from having any opinions about herself.
After marriage her existence becomes all the more meaningless, just because she has to raise her children. This is, no doubt, a duty of a mother but should definitely not become a reason for ignoring her life.
I have seen, even girls themselves are unaware about the importance of their right to choice. Many girls do not demand it because their minds are conditioned that there is nothing more acceptable than being a bride and no day more worthy than the day of her wedding ceremony.
Is this a girls life? Isn't there any higher purpose to it? Why are men so possessive? Can't they accept a women's free will. In many areas woman are still considered insignificant.
This unacceptable mentality permeates our society and many girls seem fine with it. Those who raise questions are soon hushed up by the people around her.
You are right, that there is nothing more we observe and think about the girl's future that one day she had to get married one day,
ReplyDeleteI think if a girl loves something then after marriage, the in-laws should support her in achieving the goals, Aims, the things that bring her happiness, more than that her life partner should support her in all these scenarios. But on the other hand, if her family needs her more in any situation of life, she should give priority to her family.
There is another scenario that a man never wants her life partner to work for money in case he had enough money to lead a beautiful life. Sometimes there are situations in life where a person had enough money but his wife only wants to do a job because she just wants to pass her time, this is Wrong. In such cases, they should give each other a Good and precious time to have a beautiful life.
I completely agree with your thoughts that if a girl wants to pursue something then her in-laws and especially her life partner should support her.